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Another year older and another year wiser — September 22, 2015

Another year older and another year wiser

Twenty eight years I have been on the planet. I have been reflecting a lot on the thins I have done in my life. I look forward to what the future has to bring for me. My friendships have grown stronger, I have 2 beautiful boys that I love dearly, and all the children I babysit as well they all hold a place in my heart. My husband despite our ups and downs is still by my side and I grow to love him more everyday even if he cant remember to take out the stinky trash. I have made some life choices like exercising and eating better  with encouragement of my best friend.  Somedays I don’t know what I would do without her and her husband. They are the couple that besides my husband, I trust completely and will never turn there back on me.  I have to be truly blessed to have all these people in my life that care about me and my family. So what if I am getting older? That’s half the fun. The different stages you reach in your life ( even if I was a little backwards about it) kids, marriage etc.  These are all things that have mad me he person I am today.  All the good and bad decisions, I went the wrong ways but found my way back. My moral compass got spun around and I had to fix it.  However you look at it,  you have to figure out what to do with it.  I can say that I am looking forward to the next few years of my life, and what is in store for me, what trials or triumphs I will be learning from.

Its a right handed world and im left in it — August 26, 2015

Its a right handed world and im left in it

Recently we had National Left Handers Day. I stop to appreciate this because I am left handed. A lot of people see it as a inconvenience, or ask why don’t you just learn to do it the other way? Well I could ask the same question about you!  I have had to struggle with this my whole life and I will continue to do so for the rest of my life, but being left handed also has shown me to over come and think outside the box! I am also better listener, because I have had to hear instructions and mirror them. I have to sit in front of people and face them when I learning something new.

“Left-handers are wired into the artistic half of the brain, which makes them imaginative, creative, surprising, ambiguous, exasperating, stubborn, emotional, witty, obsessive, infuriating, delightful, original, but never, never, dull.” James T deKay

So why am I bringing this up now? Why is it a big deal to me? As a left hander I do have to learn to do things different or I have to learn to do it right handed. The only thing I do right handed is cut with scissors. Growing up in the 90’s you might remember the ugly left handed scissors, nobody could cut with those darn scissors whether you were left handed or not!  I digress, that is no really what I needed to say, I was at the bar on Sunday playing my weekly APA match of 9 ball. It was my turn to keep score while my captain  was playing against the other team and I notice that the score keeper on the other team was having a issue with her pen.  I looked to see the type of pen she was using and it just so happen to be a ball point pen with the writing grips and the push down top. (I would post a picture but most of them are subject to copyright) These pens are not made for left handed people! She agreed also because she was left handed and then another man but in to our conversation saying that’s pens are not made just for right handed people. I told him I have been have learned a lot of things and those pens are made for right handed population, the angle of the pen and the ball are and working twice are had to write.  Its a proven fact, and I am not crazy!  So he said well maybe you should learn to be right handed….

Why yes he really just said that….

To which I replied, uh…no because I like being left handed

the other scorekeeper also agreed and said yeah left handed people are way cooler

So what I guess I am trying to say is we are everywhere, yes we get excited when we meet another one of us please respect the fact we have some struggles but we have banded together and learned to deal with it, but please stop telling us to switch hands we will figure it out.

the final thoughts of summer vacation and a start to another year. — August 25, 2015

the final thoughts of summer vacation and a start to another year.

So its finally here….the last day of summer vacation!!!!!!! its a bitter sweet feeling I am ready to get back into a routine, less kids to babysit, I can work on myself a little bit.  This has been a crazy summer I have enjoyed spending the extra time with everyone else kids while the work hard to provide for there families. Somedays were crazier then others, I would have honestly thought I could have been bald or with a head full of gray hair.

I don’t know if this is what I am meant to be doing with my life but for now I think it is.  We are a one income family and its hurts us pretty bad right now but its not worth me going back to work just to pay for daycare and gas.  We find ways to survive but we are barley making it.  I don’t charge my friends for watching “the precious cargo” because I am not that kind of person. Sure I would love the extra money who wouldn’t.  I don’t want to keep hearing people nag me about it any more. I am tired of it. If I didn’t want to watch these children who call me auntie then I would just say no. But  everyone is falling on hard times and they will all be in school eventually so I take advantage of the fact they are only little once.   As it turns out nobody wants to leave my house when it is time to go haha.

I have rules to be followed, snacks in the cabinet. As long as they are not trying to kill each other or jump off the furniture and try to fly I let them be kids and play.  Let kids be kids, teach them right and wrong, teach them compassion teach them to hug you and squeeze you even if there friends don’t think its cool anymore.  When they want to ask you a question or “show you something cool” give them your attention. lots of times I will be in the kitchen getting lunch ready and I will hear one of them yell for me so I put down what I’m doing or have them come over to me and show me.

You also have to make time for yourself which is super hard sometimes. I go play pool on Sundays and Monday nights so that I can be around adults.  if I don’t get up before the kids then I don’t get me time and most important coffee. I need that 15 mins to just sit. Now that school is going to be back in session I can set my alarm and be prepared. The best thing to do it make there lunches the night before get there clothes laid out its less stressful then running around half asleep. I am lucky that my son just gets up and goes in the morning a few reminders here and there but for the most part things run pretty smooth. I hope that everyone has a fantastic school year, and I look forward to reading about how other parents get there kids ready for the big days ahead!

Pinterest is just a good as calling your grandparents! — February 25, 2015

Pinterest is just a good as calling your grandparents!

Isn’t it funny that with all this technology we just hop online and find what we are looking for. Whether it be a new recipe, craft ideas for kids or yourself, or even a new book to read. Everything is at the tip of our fingers. Sometimes though I need to make a phone call and ask.  What we sometimes forget is that our grandparents are full of knowledge! My Pepe is a recipe book just waiting to be opened, and if you have ever eaten anything that he has made you will agree that going to Pinterest just isn’t the same when you have a Class A chef to ask. Another example is my Meme, she is a creative crafty person. If I need something for the kids to do or a project to crochet I could just call her to ask if she has any ideas for me. Then there is my little Italian grandmother who makes the best tomato sauce (gravy) I have ever had. Nothing beats it, or the stories she tells of my dad when he was a kid.

Our generation forgets to take the time to ask the people before us what they have. Take the time and sit with your grandparents if they are still alive and listen to them. They help mold this country! They are wise beyond their years, and you might learn a thing or two. I’m sure a lot of people still have grandparents that are first generation immigrants. The stories they can tell you about “the old country” and the times they used to have. It give you a great appreciation for what you have today.  I have definitely heard my fair share of “I had walk 5 miles up hill to get to school” stories, but that’s what makes them great. A lot of our grandparents had the same experiences.

So take the time and pick up the phone, call you grandparents tell hem about your lives listen to the stories they have to tell you. Fill your brains with the knowledge they give you so that you can pass it to your kids, nieces and nephews.   OR if you can go visit them! Nothing makes their heart melt more then a visit from the grandkids.

Lent — February 20, 2015

Lent

So here we are 2015 and two days into lent.  Now I don’t know how religious you are but everyone can learn a little about themselves at this time of year. How strong is your willpower? Can you give something up for 40 days and 40 nights? Well I certainly have a hard time with that.  Instead of giving something up this year I thought I would take the time and try a challenge. Another blogger I follow is reading assigned parts of the Bible. Starting on Wednesday with Mathew 1 and 2 and will continue this up to Easter Sunday.   Now when I decided to do this I can tell you that I know as much about Jesus and the Bible as someone who only goes to church once a year and has watch movies with religious references. I pray everyday and talk to the lord when I need guidance. I just don’t need to attend church to prove that.

If I need a question answer about something, or someone that was made a reference to I will “google it”  I have never really looked to the Bible to answer my questions I believe my parents  brought me up with pretty decent morals. My passion for reading and learning take over me and needless to say I wanted to know. So far the teachings I have read are things that I have grown up learning. I also find that I have to  re-read a lot of passages because of the wording. I have had to look up a lot of words. Yay for dictionaries!  Over all I am learning a lot and I encourage you all to expand your mind and read. If you can take the time and read a couple of pages or passages a day. Think about what you have read. Can you apply it to your everyday life?  I don’t always take the time to stop and think about thing but when I read a book. I put it down and try to recall what I have learned. How I feel about what I have learned? Challenge yourself.

Tis the season too soon? — November 2, 2014

Tis the season too soon?

Well here it is the most wonderful time of year is slowly approaching Halloween, Thanksgiving and my personal favorite Christmas time! It’s time for pinterest overload, and holiday crafting to begin. On the other hand the amount of stress it puts and you and your family is a hassle and should be avoided also. For example I am married and have two wonderful children, but this time of year is hard trying to squeeze in four separate Christmas celebrations in a matter of three days! Making sure everyone gets to see the grandkids and trying to please everyone. So as much as I enjoy visiting the families and seeing the joy on everyone’s faces I’m stressed to the max. I don’t want to let anyone down, and I don’t want anyone to feel left out.

On top of that Christmas tends to start earlier every year. Black Friday is no longer 12am shopping to get the best savings. Now some stores are opening Thanksgiving night! I understand we are trying to save some money and hopefully get the best deals possible to appease our loved ones because giving a gift and seeing the smile it brings makes my heart warm. I try to stick with homemade gifts that my friends and family can use and appreciate. I also will admit that I too try any way to save a dollar but we are essentially taking away time from others if we continue this madness by shopping before the holiday is even over. Let others be with their families too.

This will be the last rant I have about the holidays, please for the sake and sanity of all do not play Christmas music until after thanksgiving this time of year brings happiness and joy to all but if I hear Have a holly jolly Christmas too many times I might go a little crazy. Again don’t get me wrong I love this time of year but please be mindful to others and their families. Enjoy the traditions you and your families have baking, wrapping, putting up decorations etc. I’m a sucker for the holidays just like any one else, remember it’s not about the money you spend it’s about the Time you Give to others and the memories you make each year. I couldn’t tell you what I received for Christmas when I was 10 but I can tell you every Christmas morning I get together with my family and have breakfast because we are together and that’s what matters the most. Enjoy the holidays but don’t start too soon and don’t stress yourself out.