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Its a right handed world and im left in it — August 26, 2015

Its a right handed world and im left in it

Recently we had National Left Handers Day. I stop to appreciate this because I am left handed. A lot of people see it as a inconvenience, or ask why don’t you just learn to do it the other way? Well I could ask the same question about you!  I have had to struggle with this my whole life and I will continue to do so for the rest of my life, but being left handed also has shown me to over come and think outside the box! I am also better listener, because I have had to hear instructions and mirror them. I have to sit in front of people and face them when I learning something new.

“Left-handers are wired into the artistic half of the brain, which makes them imaginative, creative, surprising, ambiguous, exasperating, stubborn, emotional, witty, obsessive, infuriating, delightful, original, but never, never, dull.” James T deKay

So why am I bringing this up now? Why is it a big deal to me? As a left hander I do have to learn to do things different or I have to learn to do it right handed. The only thing I do right handed is cut with scissors. Growing up in the 90’s you might remember the ugly left handed scissors, nobody could cut with those darn scissors whether you were left handed or not!  I digress, that is no really what I needed to say, I was at the bar on Sunday playing my weekly APA match of 9 ball. It was my turn to keep score while my captain  was playing against the other team and I notice that the score keeper on the other team was having a issue with her pen.  I looked to see the type of pen she was using and it just so happen to be a ball point pen with the writing grips and the push down top. (I would post a picture but most of them are subject to copyright) These pens are not made for left handed people! She agreed also because she was left handed and then another man but in to our conversation saying that’s pens are not made just for right handed people. I told him I have been have learned a lot of things and those pens are made for right handed population, the angle of the pen and the ball are and working twice are had to write.  Its a proven fact, and I am not crazy!  So he said well maybe you should learn to be right handed….

Why yes he really just said that….

To which I replied, uh…no because I like being left handed

the other scorekeeper also agreed and said yeah left handed people are way cooler

So what I guess I am trying to say is we are everywhere, yes we get excited when we meet another one of us please respect the fact we have some struggles but we have banded together and learned to deal with it, but please stop telling us to switch hands we will figure it out.

the final thoughts of summer vacation and a start to another year. — August 25, 2015

the final thoughts of summer vacation and a start to another year.

So its finally here….the last day of summer vacation!!!!!!! its a bitter sweet feeling I am ready to get back into a routine, less kids to babysit, I can work on myself a little bit.  This has been a crazy summer I have enjoyed spending the extra time with everyone else kids while the work hard to provide for there families. Somedays were crazier then others, I would have honestly thought I could have been bald or with a head full of gray hair.

I don’t know if this is what I am meant to be doing with my life but for now I think it is.  We are a one income family and its hurts us pretty bad right now but its not worth me going back to work just to pay for daycare and gas.  We find ways to survive but we are barley making it.  I don’t charge my friends for watching “the precious cargo” because I am not that kind of person. Sure I would love the extra money who wouldn’t.  I don’t want to keep hearing people nag me about it any more. I am tired of it. If I didn’t want to watch these children who call me auntie then I would just say no. But  everyone is falling on hard times and they will all be in school eventually so I take advantage of the fact they are only little once.   As it turns out nobody wants to leave my house when it is time to go haha.

I have rules to be followed, snacks in the cabinet. As long as they are not trying to kill each other or jump off the furniture and try to fly I let them be kids and play.  Let kids be kids, teach them right and wrong, teach them compassion teach them to hug you and squeeze you even if there friends don’t think its cool anymore.  When they want to ask you a question or “show you something cool” give them your attention. lots of times I will be in the kitchen getting lunch ready and I will hear one of them yell for me so I put down what I’m doing or have them come over to me and show me.

You also have to make time for yourself which is super hard sometimes. I go play pool on Sundays and Monday nights so that I can be around adults.  if I don’t get up before the kids then I don’t get me time and most important coffee. I need that 15 mins to just sit. Now that school is going to be back in session I can set my alarm and be prepared. The best thing to do it make there lunches the night before get there clothes laid out its less stressful then running around half asleep. I am lucky that my son just gets up and goes in the morning a few reminders here and there but for the most part things run pretty smooth. I hope that everyone has a fantastic school year, and I look forward to reading about how other parents get there kids ready for the big days ahead!